First and foremost, I’m nothing without God, and nothing without following his will for my life.
Secondly, I appreciate you taking the time to want to know about the power of questions. I’m sure that you already ask awesome questions in the area of expertise in your field, or sphere of influence.
But, have you ever felt emotionally drained by one of your customers (or client, or significant other, or friend, or family)? Have you ever felt like you can’t help that person even though you want to? Have you ever noticed certain people have so much potential in life and in their destinies but they seem to fall into cycles of unhealthy relationships, unfulfilled jobs, and patterns of living life without clarity and direction?
Maybe something is blocking them from more, maybe they just need more prayer, more support, or a relationship with God? Or maybe they have tried a lot and don’t know what to do?
If you answered yes to one or more questions, maybe you have encountered someone in need of more direction, clarity and encouragement in their lives. And that’s where life coaches can help by asking questions. Life coaches don’t provide therapy nor diagnose people. There are some life coaches who are also therapists (that’s not me by the way). I am free from marriage and family therapy licensing as of February 2016. I know, this might be new to some people, but yeah I just let my MFT intern number expire, because I know that’s not the path for me anymore. I learned a lot, I helped many, but I know I can help more people through christian life coaching.
By the way, it sometimes might feel I explain too much through writing, it’s because I’m a writer who has the teaching gift, but getting to the point of this blog post, let me share some beneficial questions you can ask yourself or anyone who might be in need of life coaching guidance:
1. When you were a kid, what did you say when someone asked you what you wanted to be when you grow up?
(want to know my answer? I wanted to be a writer and also a model. Some things stay with the person, but some things change when we grow up)
2. What is it that makes your eyes sparkle just by talking about it?
3. What and who brings you joy, no matter how you feel?
4. What would you do for free if all your bills were already paid for?
5. What thought is blocking you from what you really want to do?
6. What thought is blocking you from making that big move your heart desires to do?
7. After praying about it, and knowing you need to do that next step, what else is preventing you from acting on your wishes?
8. Do you feel worthy of the lifestyle change you want to make? If no, why not?
9. Do you treat your work as a job/ministy, or as a hobby? (people work for profit, people do hobbies for no profit)
10. Is your heart happy?
11. Where do you find the most comfort when you are not feeling happy?
12. Are you living a life worthy of the calling you received?
13. Do you want your soul to be well? If yes, what are you doing about it?
14. What made you choose your major of study?
15. What is your area of expertise? Do you ever want to teach it? and Who would be your audience?
16. What do you like to do for fun? And do you get to do that on your sabbath, if you take a day off?
17. Who would reap the results of your obedience? what’s on the other side of your obedience?
18. What is it that is blocking you from believing in _________?
Even if you don’t need life coaching nor know anyone who needs it, some are fun questions, questions you can ask in your discipleship relationships, even fun dating or ice breaker questions!!
By the way, I don’t scare clients by asking all of the above questions. We are each working on something, so part of my work is to ask questions based on what God shows me. One thing I do, I care enough to see people fulfill what God put in them to do, and if that includes asking the hard questions, I will ask them.